It’s been 365 days since I married my best friend and for the most part, it’s been an amazing year. I’d be lying, if I said that everything was perfect. At times, it was quite a difficult transition – from moving out for the first time ever, moving into my in-laws place, and living in a room with a boy! The year brought on new challenges but was filled with laughs, growing pains and love. Lots of love. Marriage is a commitment and a commitment to love your spouse every single day (even those days you just can’t stand them)! The most important thing I’ve learned is that no marriage is perfect, but it can be close. Today, I’m sharing some personal lessons I’ve learned over the past year but first…our wedding video thanks to the talented Stephen Han‘s cinematography!
Cinematography: Stephen Han
What I’ve learned in our first year of marriage:
1. Keep Communicating.
I can see why people start losing each other and fall out of love in a marriage. Communication is key and nagging doesn’t count! I mean the kind where you put your phones away, turn off the tv, focus on each other and talk. We set our rules early on, with a “no phone” rule at dinner. We sit around the table and intentionally take time out of our busy schedules and give each other the attention we all long for.
2. Saying Sorry is Half the Battle.
We all make mistakes and it’s not always easy admitting it. But, it’s the first step. I have to admit two stubborn people refusing to say sorry gets old. Over the year, it’s been a lot easier to say sorry because it’s the actual underlying issue that becomes even more difficult to talk through (but of course totally worth it for a healthier relationship).
3. Continue to Pursue.
Marriage doesn’t mean that the romance dies. It just means you have to work harder at it, even more so than when you were dating! Pursue your spouse in ways you’d also want to be pursued.
4. Don’t forget to Take Time for Yourself.
For me this is a no-brainer. You spend a heck of a lot more time with your spouse and the people they come with, so make sure you don’t lose yourself by taking “me time.” For me, it’s taking time for yoga each week and yes it’s only an hour long but totally necessary for self health.
5. Boys will always be boys.
Ladies, we all know your men are men, but they will always have that little kid in them that will appear once in a while. For my husband, he’s the biggest goof but it’s okay because he can take charge when he needs to. Plus one of us has to be the funny one right?
Again, marriage isn’t perfect but if you are intentional with it, it can get pretty close. Thanks for the best year ever Roy, I love you to the moon and back and look forward to what the future holds for us 🙂